I’M FEELING 22!
I am officially 22 years old and I couldn’t feel better. I have seen a lot of posts about “things I have learned in so many years” and so I thought I would jump on the band wagon. Adulting is a giant teachable moment and mot of my experiences have come from the past couple years, and so, without further ado, here are 22 things I’ve learned in 22 years.
- Family is everything. Family is there for you when no one else is. If you don’t have a good family then you find one that works for you. Family doesn’t have to be blood related. You can find a family in a friend group or organisation.
- It’s not the end of the world. It might seem like a big deal that you’re another year older, but it’s not. Life goes on and so will you. You must live life to the fullest because you never know when your last day will be.
- Follow your passions. Life is too short and you shouldn’t be in a job you hate or school you hate. I’m not saying to just quit when life gets hard, just try and live passionately. Have hobbies and keep yourself busy with friends and family. Have fun while you can.
- Some friendships won’t last forever. People will come and go throughout your life and this is normal. I believe that these people will teach you lessons regardless of how long they will or have been in your life. Don’t stay in a friendships or relationships if the person is only a taker.
- Comparing yourself to others only hurts you. I used to think that comparing myself served as a motivator. but it will only leave you discouraged.
- Treasure the moment. Life is full of small and beautiful moments. Enjoy these and try not to focus on the past or the future.
- Don’t grow up too fast. I definitely enjoyed my childhood, but as an adolescent, I just wanted to grow up. At times, I wish I would let loose more and not worry what people think about me.
- Some people are terrible, but most people are good. I never used to like making friends because I always thought “another person to let me down”. Of course there are people who are terrible and who would let you down, but you have to risk it because there are so many more amazing people in this world who are good.
- Give up on dieting. Stop worrying about your size. Restricting calories does not work. Eating no fat and no processed foods will make you miserable. The goal is to live a healthy lifestyle. Just remember that YOU ARE PERFECT JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.
- Mental health is important. Having anxiety or depression isn’t glamorous. Even if you’re just feeling down, go and talk to someone, whether that be a counselor, family or friend. You just need to be honest with how you are feeling and let people know when you’re going through a tough time.
- You don’t have to justify yourself to other people. You don’t have to explain yourself to others. You don’t need to tell people why you’re single. You don’t need to tell people why you’re not religious, or why you didn’t go to a party. You don’t need to justify yourself to anyone, if people can’t accept that then you’re probably better off without them.
- Acknowledging that I am privileged. I always find this a hard topic to talk about because in some aspects, I am privileged than others, but there are also people who are more privileged than me. It’s being able to recognise that you have had a good life and your parents have done the very best they can for you to have the best life.
- Balance is key. No one expects you to be perfect. I try not to bounce between one extreme and another. It may take time for you to find your balance, but once you find it, your life will feel more at ease and you’ll be able to relax more.
- Have a personal style. First impressions can be difficult as it is so important. How you dress can tell someone so much about you. You don’t have to dress up constantly, but having your own personal style makes you more recognisable in the sea of ordinary people.
- Life isn’t fair. Some things just won’t go your way. It’s unfortunate, but no one has an easy life. You should always try to be positive, but still contain some sense of realism.
- There are always going to be people who don’t like you. It’s impossible to please everyone. Some people just aren’t going to like you and it’s not your fault. You shouldn’t let it bother you.
- Spend time in nature. Fresh air is so good for you. I feel like you could learn a lot from spending time in nature, going for a walk either on your own or with good company. It’s just a peaceful experience.
- People matter. Avoid playing games with people. You might be too caught up in your emotions to understand that others are also fighting their own battles. Intentionally hurting people says a lot about you.
- Just because your friends are doing to, doesn’t mean you have to do it. I’m not necessarily talking about drugs or alcohol. You are an individual and you don’t have to do things because your “clique” does it.
- Social media is a tool. people complain a lot about social media, but when used correctly, it can be an asset within your personal and/or professional life.
- Be honest with yourself. Know your strengths and accept your weaknesses. Don’t lie to yourself and always be genuine.
- You should always be your first priority. You should always look out for yourself first. You should be living the best life for you, not for someone else. The only person you can rely on is yourself, so make sure you don’t lose yourself in someone elses shadow.
I hope you enjoyed this very long post. Let me know in the comments an important lesson you have learned. Thanks for reading. Until next time.